You Are Most Perfect For… Me
By Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny Gee
I’m always, always glad to see you. You are the only person I can be with… around… all the time. I’ve never been bored by you, tired… of you. Who are you?
A person who is kind; the second kindest man I’ve ever known. I knew the most kindest as a little girl. His name was George Harris. He was the only grandfather I ever knew in my life. He was my step-grandfather. His love was like his smile… it reached his eyes… his sightless eyes.
George was blind, yet… he could ‘see’. He ‘could see a person’, sense if they were good, honest. He ‘could see’ to do everything… because he wanted to do everything. George never sat around ‘feeling sorry for himself’… George had a life. Each day he got up, carried out his responsibilities.
George was my Grandma Alma’s husband, best friend, and soul mate. He loved her dearly; she loved him back the same way. Of course… they had some very ‘loud’ fusses… they’d tell each off in a heartbeat.
Anyone close by… would sit, listen… and possibly put a hand over their mouth in surprise at what would come out of their mouths! Of course… it could be quite comical. Why… I ‘learned my best words… my little sayings… from them’! I know… some things to say! How could I not know? Everyone for a mile away… could hear them. :)))
I loved them with my very heart. They only had each other… ‘it was them against the world’. They were together almost every minute of their married life. They could fuss each other out… love each other so much… in the next minute. Don’t let anyone come in there to start something with the other… because the other would instantly begin to protect….
Grandma Alma could swing a mean glass of water on someone. She’d do it in a minute. She was paralyzed, couldn’t walk. She could use one hand, one leg. Her mind was as sharp as any knife in a drawer.
She was very intelligent. Always… she tried to teach ‘us kids’ things… sometimes, we would sit on the floor cross-legged to listen to her talk, tell stories.
My Grandma Alma was a wonderful person… I only regret I couldn’t have appreciated her… while being an adult. I think she’d been proud at how I turned out to be … after all I’ve experienced in my life. I think she’d been so proud that I learned from all the ‘bad’ in my life.
I feel sad when I think of her, George. Life is sad. Think about it for a moment… as children, we love people who meant so much to us, yet… we didn’t know all we could have done to make a positive difference in their life.
When we grow up… we grow up remembering what ‘they told us we would remember’. Such as, when ‘I’m dead and gone, you are going to wish you had listened to me; you are going to miss me; you are going to wish you’d treated me better’.
As children, we can’t understand that people aren’t going to be there, always… for us. As a child, I didn’t know death was more than what my first memory was. My memory of death was one shrouded in mystery… the man across the road died.
I vaguely remember as that little girl, my mother and her sisters talking quietly… saying they were going across the street. Mr ‘so and so’ had died… oh no, children can’t go.
I watched them slip quietly across the street as I stood there… darkness, the sun quit shining… whatever dying was… one had to whisper quietly about it… and children couldn’t know about it.
That was my first impression of death… quietness, darkness… the sun quits shining. Fear……..
Grandma Alma… George. I think about them often. ‘Now’… I could appreciate you both, so much more than when I was a child. I know I caused you both to yell a lot at me, as well as the others.
I was a mean little girl… I just know I was. I ‘was taught by the best’……. with other children, I fought to hold my ground. With adults… I was afraid of them… when they became mad… I knew I was going to get ‘what for’…
I knew a lot of ‘good, cuss words’… and if another child made me angry… they knew them, too! We would sound like… Grandma Alma, and George!
There’s one thing that has stuck out through time… my Grandma Alma always said it to George, when she became angry. Everyone would be off in a distance listening… they never knew it. When she’d become mad… she’d yell at him, saying ‘you are a he-man, you are nothing but, a ‘he-man’!
What that meant, I’m not sure. But… it was the ‘perfect button for her to push’… because George would ‘blow up’! The fight was on! They never knew they entertained when they had a fuss. The children would giggle… the adults would grin a ‘knowing’ smile.
They were the only ones who could ‘fight, fuss’… make others laugh. When ‘the others, themselves’… fought… the world would become a very scary place. They would come to the ‘arena’ in front of Grandma Alma, George… and ‘fight like hell’ in front of them. Blood was drawn, flesh was pounded… somebody was going to get hurt. Somebody was going to… know who was boss!
No matter what… this little girl grew up loving those… hell-raisers. Loved them with her very heart. Learned as she grew older… in that family… it wasn’t possible to form a lasting relationship. Growing older, she learned it was part of the ‘family heritage’… it wasn’t possible.
George… was the kindest man I ever knew, until… I met Skip. Like my Grandma Alma… I found my best friend, my soul mate, and my hero in this life. That doesn’t happen a lot… I was fortunate. God was good to me… to give me someone who loved me… as much as I loved… him.
Life with Skip has been full of many unusual things. We both traveled many paths in Life… a lot we learned weren’t the paths we wanted to be on. Those paths we had all the material wealth, luxuries we wanted… people thought we were the greatest.
Through time, as we learned from the paths we wanted to be on, travel now… we began to not have so much. People like us… but, not for what we have ‘now’. I think because they see ‘real people’ now, in place of what we wanted to project many years ago.
Also, there are people who are glad we no longer have anything. So, that tells you a lot about them. A lot of them don’t, either. Jealousy, greed… makes people ‘your best friends’… you become the worse if you no longer ‘have it to give’…
The way I see it… it really feels good ‘to not keep up the pretense of being something … you never were to begin with… never will be … no matter what’. I remember my Mom always telling me something so true (I may get it backwards… I do that! But, you’ll know what I mean! :))). She’d always say, “Faye, don’t fly so high that you can’t fall”…
I love being a ‘private’ person. I like myself… I don’t know a lot of people in my ‘everyday’ life like me. I know that I’m ‘nobody’ to others… but, I really am to myself. I don’t pretend to be something I’m surely not. I like being with ‘me’… I can entertain myself with drawing, computer, reading, playing with my Pups… it’s seldom I get lonely. Of course, with all of you who follow me, are my friends… I’m never alone. I have Skip, our Pups… that’s my world; my life.
I do wish for one thing not only for myself… but, what I could do for people who ‘need’… that is to have a lot of money. I know money is supposed to be the ‘root of all evil’, ‘bad’… but, it’s not when you are happy with it, and making a ‘good’ difference everywhere you go in life. I do ‘know’ that for sure… I have lived it in my life… I did make a difference. I wish to be able to do that again.
When I do have extra to give, sometimes even… if I don’t have extra to give… I do it from my very heart. I feel it deeply from caring with my very heart.
When people are younger… life is an illusion of sorts. They want to project that they ‘are more than what they actually are’. I watch the same old pattern play out now… in the generation behind me. I understand it… ‘everyone wants to be somebody… sometimes, they are on the wrong path’… to really be. People ‘see through them’… why? They have been there… done that.
The one common thing they want to project is… that they are rich, have so much… so, others can think ‘they are somebody’. Day by day, fancy words they don’t normally use (it tells on one)… bragging about this, that….. someone is always around who ‘knows better’……
Then… one day they ‘know’… they know that this life is not about ‘what one has’… it’s about love, caring for others. Being rich is a good thing because it does make possible to have all you desire… it also, makes possible to make others happy, too. That’s strictly my ‘Gloria Opinion’.
One doesn’t have to brag about in words they aren’t used to saying … trying to appear to be ‘more’ than what they are. Instead of bragging… do something.
I promise when you do something for another… see such appreciation, gratefulness… you’ll feel a happiness you can’t get from anything else. I promise you.
Make even a ‘tiny dream’ come true for a child… an adult you hear wishing for this, that. Whenever I get extra money… I listen, watch the whole time. I ‘already know the amount’ I can let go of… to do something, even small… to make another person smile, happy.
Guess what? Good things… do… come back to you in the most unexpected ways. Everything goes in a cycle… it ‘all comes back to you’.
Just think… you don’t want ‘a bad thing to travel full-circle back to you’. It’s like planting a garden… if you plant good seeds, tend your garden… it’s going to be wonderful seeing what comes up next! Think of your words… like seeds. If they are ‘bad toward others’… they are going to ‘sprout up later’, haunt you.
Of course, we know I’m not perfect… not even anywhere to being perfect. I’m going to say, do things sometimes just like anybody else. I am old enough to ‘try not to’… to ‘know better’.
Once in a while… I’m going to be human. It’s my only excuse if I ‘misbehave badly’. I try not to… but, I ‘feel things deeply’… and I’m pretty much used to expressing what I really think. When I do … I try to do it in the kindest way.
I don’t like to hurt others… but, if I’m pushed in a ‘bad’ way… then, trouble is sure to follow. Especially … after the number ‘3’. The 3rd time… I’m holding my ground. :))) I bet most people are… the same way. Especially people everyone thinks ‘are so nice… I can do them any old way… they are too nice to not take it’…. :)))
Back to best friends, soul mates, heroes. All of my readers, followers, fans… know instantly ‘who’ is mine. For those who are just learning, it’s my husband, Skip. He is my whole life… he and our Pups are the only family I have… and the only relationships that I ‘know’ is forever, to the end.
We don’t agree all the time… much of the time we do. When we don’t agree, we tell each other ‘why’. By the time, we get it talked out, the other ‘sees why’… nine out of ten times… we end up agreeing. :))) Of course… we are going to have our differences… once in a while.
One difference being… when we cook-out on the grill. Our steaks are going to be different. He is going to want his more medium-rare… mine is going to be well-done. He doesn’t like garlic… I love garlic! We cook together… he watches his………. I watch mine! :)))
My best friend, my hero… my soul mate… I’m always, always glad to see… you. I love you, Skip. You are ‘most perfect for me’… :)))
- I Learned I Had A Fighting Spirit… (grannyscolorful.wordpress.com)