Just think of a wonderful river of clear water overflowing its banks touching your toes to get them wet! That’s ‘me’ … and I’m a good person … sometimes, a ‘mean-ass’ person. By Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny Gee
Can You Have a Big Heart … Be a Mean-Ass at the Same Time?
By Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny Gee/@GeeGranny
Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny Gee
Can you have a big Heart … be a mean-ass at the same time? Better yet … can you be a bitch, and be a good person?
Can you show your ass … still be a good person? Be imperfect … be a good person? A worthy person? Are you still deserving of love?
Can you be tough, not take any shit … appear mean, tough … and still be a good person? Have a bad reputation? Hell, we all know people with … good reputations … are perfect … right? Hell no.
Do you think people who look Godly are Christians? You know the ones that look, sound so … holy. Oh my God, you can’t believe such and such could do such a horrible thing! Why look at them! They look so, so … so … perfect! So damn pure, innocent! Look at that beautiful, clean, sweet smile! No, they couldn’t do anything wrong, much less commit a … sin! Yes, they can! They will do it quicker, easier than someone … who ‘looks the part’.
I’m here to tell you … just because someone ‘looks the part’ doesn’t … mean they are.
Just because someone looks like a motorcycle rider with long hair, scruffy beard, raspy voice doesn’t mean … they aren’t a good person. Don’t look over … there’s a motorcycle going by! Don’t make eye contact, they might kill you, beat you up … rape you. Not true. I have friends who are rough, tough … who are more honest, sincere than some ‘friends’ who wear suits, beautiful clothes, and are … Godly.
Don’t get me wrong … I know some people and their looks can be exactly the way they appear … they live up to them. I also, know … looks can be deceiving. Some of the people I like, love best are … mean-asses with big Hearts.
How can I say that? Because I mean it. People … you’d never expect to come to your aid … don’t always come in … perfect packages.
Would you decline help from a homeless person who has nothing, much less the clothes on their back … all because they didn’t … look, smell just right? Would you? You probably would. I wouldn’t … and I wouldn’t forget them later. That’s how much I would appreciate their help.
I don’t judge people by their outer appearance. I watch, listen, sense quietly … without anyone being aware that I am doing so. I build my impressions of people that way …
Just because I look like a ‘mean-ass’ … do you think I’m ‘bad’? This is a mean-ass photo. I’m not responsible for the expression on my face … yes, I know it’s mine but … (God, isn’t it ugly! 🙂
I don’t even have to hear them with their ‘hello-oooooooo’s and how-wwwwww are you-uuuuuu’s’ … (we all know that’s fake-ass anyway … don’t we?) to know they aren’t sincere. That pisses me off when I hear that … all I can do is to look directly into their eyes … for some reason, they don’t say anything else. I don’t know …. why.
Yes, I do … see me be … insincere … for a moment? Yes, I know ‘why?’ People don’t like for you to not pretend to … play the game of life with them … let’s be hap-pppppppppppppppppy! when we aren’t … I don’t have time for your nonsense!
Watch their eyes become vacant … and body language change when you tell them that you don’t feel well today … my best friend was hit by a tree yesterday, then a dog bit her in the ass as a car hit both of them … I fell down the stairs a few minutes ago, hit my head … can’t you see my nose is bleeding?
They won’t even hear you … they are so caught up in their own game of life. I have tried that … be damned … no one heard me! It was the ‘devil’ in me … sometimes, I love to ‘test’ things so, I can later write about them. 🙂
You know … life is like this! I would love to be an ‘Impractical Joker‘ … or someone on Candid Camera. To catch reactions (only in a good way) of people … ‘test’ them a little! Do I look like a mean-ass … bad person just because my expression isn’t what you expect it to be? Well, I’m not, and I am 🙂
I know all people who say ‘hello-ooooooo’s and how-www ar-rrrre you-uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu’s’ … aren’t bad. I know that. I know too, some of them are just dumb-asses who know no better than to say what they’ve heard all their life. They are afraid to be themselves. I also, know when I worked with the public … I wasn’t like that. I let my caring, love for people show. It meant the world to them … and to me … because I felt better for it. I was a good dumb ass, I guess.
Even your every day preacher isn’t perfect, all good. Have you ever had one chase you as a young girl … I mean literally chase your ass around a room … just to get a kiss? In the name of … Jesus?
How about your school teacher … a local law enforcement officer … Sunday school teacher … barber … the good wife … good husband? Do you think just because they are labeled ‘good wife’ … ‘good husband’ … ‘grandfather’ … policeman … trooper … teacher … that they are perfect? That they are good people? Honest, sincere and perfect people? I bet you do. No, they aren’t.
Just because you have a ‘label’ like the label inside of a ‘brand-name’ dress doesn’t mean it won’t … ravel, tear, split just like its cheaper brands. Why? Because it isn’t … perfect. It’s not … all good … it’s not … better than. That damn fabric can do just like every other kind can … be it good or be it … bad. Do you know that? I think you do.
Artwork by me, Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny Gee … just because a dress is beautiful … doesn’t mean it’s perfect, can’t tear, split no matter what label is on it … same as people. I know … I’ve been torn, split, worn thin by life … I am made of tough fabric, strengthened by life … yet, I cry, feel sad, love and care with my Heart … and I’m a mean-ass person sometimes … and I have a big Heart. 🙂
How many times have you worn something and it split? button pop off? ripped? Be damned if my dress from Macy’s didn’t … just split! It was supposed to be the best … not supposed to do that!
Oh my God! That man committed a crime years ago … he served time in prison for it. Does that make him a bad person for the rest of his life? Oh my goodness? Did you see that woman just steal an ink pen, and a magazine while in the waiting room of the doctor’s office? Damn thief! She’s bad! No matter how good they are, try to be … they are supposed to be bad the rest of their life? I bet you think they are. They are … not.
I choose my friends not from their past … but as they are today. I choose my friends who are real people … aren’t afraid to be real. I love people who just come out, say ‘hell, I’m not perfect … I’m just me’. I love people who are just themselves.
Now why? do I love real people who are just themselves? Because when I choose ‘something good’ to eat … it’s like food … I want each thing to taste ‘true to its taste’. I want flavor … the more the better … if I want to mix my flavors to get a more spicy dish, I will. I don’t want the same kind of friend every time … in life, we all need our friends of different walks of life.
We need our good friends and our mean-ass friends … friends who aren’t afraid to walk ahead for us when we are afraid to take another step. Do you agree?
I bet you do when you run up with something in life … you don’t know which way to turn … you are afraid. A mean-ass comes along … offers to help you … walks ahead of you, protecting and looking out for you until you can cross the bridges of obstacles in your life.
When you get to the other side … aren’t you glad you have a tough, mean-ass friend who had a big-ass Heart? I sure am. Thank God for them!
Watch a movie … watch yourself. You are rooting for the ‘bad’ guy a lot of times. He isn’t really bad though … you see him doing ‘bad’ things just enough to do what he needs to accomplish. Yes, I know mean-ass people who have big Hearts … I treasure them.
Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny Gee
Note by this Author:
When I write about mean-ass people I know … I am not condoning doing ‘bad’ things. I only go by how they treat me. This doesn’t mean people who have raped, done very awful things … though if they step out of their way to save me … I’m going to be grateful. I’m not going to question … you’ll see pure gratefulness in my eyes.
All I have written are my opinions, thoughts. I have the right to change my mind at any given moment. If you talk to me in person and I say something different … that means I exercised my right 🙂
I call this way of being … my ‘Gloria Opinions’. I have lots of them, doesn’t mean I’m always right … doesn’t mean I’m perfect. All it means is my mind does a helluva lot of thinking. I have to write so I will have room for more thoughts … they never stop coming. Just think of a wonderful river of clear water overflowing its banks touching your toes to get them wet! That’s ‘me’ … and I’m a good person … sometimes, a ‘mean-ass’ person.
Oh … I am not perfect. All I learned in my life are from lessons I’ve been taught from doing a lot wrong. I learned well. I like me … today. I hope you will too. I know you won’t … unless you like genuinely real, and good people.
Oh … yes, I sometimes … say a cuss word. It’s in me … I’ve known, heard them since ‘before’ I was born. I came from a hell-raising family … I know they didn’t just stop to be holy, Godly people while my mother carried me in the wound.
I know they cussed, raised Hell all the way until I came into this world … and they never stopped when I was a child. I had a Hell-luva childhood 🙂 That’s okay … I’m stronger, better for it.
Photos/colors of my life, opinions are owned by me … Gloria Faye Brown Bates/aka Granny Gee.